i wish that instead of really annoying guys coming up to you in the street to hit on you it was really cool girls who were like hey i like your hair do you want to come over and have some wine and hang out and do eachother’s nails really dope and eat foods and talk shit about all the strange men that have hit on us
I just went for a run to make myself feel better, and it worked and I was feeling better, then as I was walking home a man sexually harassed me in a real way and a repulsive way, and at first I was very angry and then I was very scared. I kicked his car which was probably not that smart because it made him very upset and now my foot hurts a lot. Then I ran around the corner and he didn’t follow me so I sat down on the disgusting shit stained bushwick sidewalk and sobbed and howled and screamed as loud as I could, which I don’t think I’ve ever done in New York City. I hate that about this place, that there’s no good place to scream without a thousand people looking at you like you’re either about to assault them or ask them for money. Most people just ignored me- I was just a stupid white girl in running clothes siting on the sidewalk, crying and clutching an iPhone. One woman didn’t cross the street to avoid me, and as she walked by told me it was all going to be ok. I choked up a thank you and she said “you bet, baby.”.
I’m about to make intentional mistakes that I feel good about soon
lol my ex BOYfriend who hit me in the face called me a ‘faux-feminist’ on the internet lol
Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.
Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.
Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.
Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.
Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.
Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,
Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.
Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.
Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.
Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.
Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.
Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.
Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.
Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.
Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.
The last one is a killer and very important.
Yeah always reblog